How to Cope When Your World is Torn Apart

Wow…it’s been a long time since I last wrote.  I apologize for that. I received a message recently from a reader that prompted me to come here to leave a post about what helped me through the hell that is divorce.  I’ve written about this before here and here, but it bears repeating…and maybe something different will come through this time. How do you cope…get through today…tomorrow…and all the days following…when your world has been torn apart by the one person you should have been able to depend upon to protect you and keep you from such pain? It’s a betrayal that hurts like no other.  On top of that, it changes everything about your future…and it hurts your children.  How do you cope with all of THAT…and continue to do all the things you need to do each day….and help your children to cope, too? Yes, it seems an impossible task but it isn’t.  I can say that with certainty because I’ve been there.  No, the circumstances of my divorce and life are not the same as yours…..and I can’t say exactly what will help YOU to cope…all I can do is tell you what helped me during those very…

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Separation & Divorce – The Grieving Process

Image via Wikipedia The death of a marriage is very very similar to the death of a loved one. In some ways, it can be worse (in my opinion). For me, the death of my husband’s love for me and the subsequent destruction of our marriage was the worst thing I’d ever experienced. The extenuating circumstances, of course, have a lot to do with the level of pain involved. As I went through separation and divorce, I felt, and still feel, that the only pain that could have been worse would have been the death of one of my children. From the time my marriage was dealt the first really destructive blow until the day the divorce was final was a period of 2 1/2 years.   That was a time of intense pain, disappointment, fear, panic, denial, hope (occasionally), strength… and weakness. For well over a year, I cried at least once every day…but it was usually more than once. Up until that point, I had cried maybe once every 5 years, if that!  In other words, I’m not a crier by nature, so this was way out of character for me and it was horrid. What would make the…

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