Divorced Catholic – Support, Encourage, Inform

 My Big News! Lisa Duffy has invited me to add my voice to her blog “A Million Unheard Souls” .  I feel honored that Lisa asked me to be a contributor and excited about this opportunity to share encouragement and hope with divorced Catholics. You can read my articles here at A Million Unheard Souls is on the Catholic Channel hosted by Patheos.com. I hope you’ll visit me there! Lisa Duffy’s Divorce Ministry Lisa has been providing support, encouragement, and resources for divorced Catholics for over twenty years. Not only has she written for many other online and print publications, but she also offers one-on-one divorce and relationship coaching, speaks at conferences and more. Lisa is now happily remarried but continues to be committed to her ministry for divorced Catholics. I hope you’ll come visit with me over at Lisa’s blog for Catholics recovering from divorce. I first learned of Lisa Duffy’s divorce ministry shortly after my divorce. It was this website, DivorcedCatholicMoms, that introduced me to Lisa and her work. That was back when I was a reader rather than a writer here. I still remember my hurt, confusion, and loneliness, feelings I’m sure you understand. Online resources were important because I worked during the…

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God’s Mercy Reached Out to This Divorced Catholic

Woman covering face in need of God's mercy

I’m sharing with you a podcast by divorce recovery expert Lisa Duffy who has been a great inspiration to me during my divorce recovery. There were few resources for divorced Catholics years ago, and there still aren’t many. Through the mercy of God, Lisa is an author, blogger, and speaker who has ministered to divorced Catholics for fifteen years. She has also appeared on NBC news as a divorce recovery expert. All for us divorced Catholics.  When Lisa’s husband walked out she was left alone, abandoned and angry.  Instead of turning to God, his mercy and her Catholic faith, Lisa listened to the well-meaning advice of co-workers and friends. They encouraged her that she would feel better once she started dating. But re-entering the world of dating didn’t heal the pain.  In the podcast below, be encouraged and inspired as Lisa Duffy shares how God’s mercy found her as she struggled through the pain of divorce in Episode 13 of Catholic Grandma Kristine Franklin’s podcast series “Mercy Unwrapped,”  Here is the encouraging story of God’s mercy in the midst of her ruined marriage.   You can visit her site at LisaDuffy.com for more podcasts, articles, and divorce recovery resources. Every woman’s experience with…

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St. Joseph – Husband & Father Extraordinaire

St. Joseph was an amazing husband and father…husband to Mary and father to Jesus!  And yet, it seems he’s largely forgotten by us.  Yesterday was the Solemnity of St. Joseph (sorry I’m late in getting this to you).  This is a day in Lent when you’re not supposed to do penance or abstain from meat or fast because a solemnity is a day of celebration. For us divorced Catholic moms, St. Joseph should be very special indeed.  Ask him to step in for the husband and father who is no longer filling those roles in your life!  He of all people and of all the saints will have compassion for our situations…pray to him and ask for his help. Here’s a video from Fr. James Martin about St. Joseph…   Enjoy your Sunday…your day of rest! (right? 🙂 ) May God bring us peace. Manya

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Don’t Give Up

Take the words of this song to heart. (With Josh Groban singing them, that’s not hard to do. 🙂 What a gorgeous voice!) May the Holy Spirit shower us with the graces we need to be at peace. Manya

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Jesus Take The Wheel

A beautiful song by Carrie Underwood, that pretty much sums up the best thing we can do for ourselves…give control of our lives to God. He asks for our trust and cooperation…in return, He showers us with gifts that make this journey we’re on a truly joyful one. Those who are in the midst of separation and divorce have a very hard time even conceiving of life as ever being joyful again. I was there and know those thoughts and feelings and the pain of it. And now I’m here and I know that terrible, hellish time DOES pass…and the joy returns to life in abundance when you keep your eye on God. Even more so when you give control of your life to Him. 🙂 This is not an easy thing to do…it’s an ongoing struggle and it’s difficult to know if control has actually been given or not….but keep practicing…you’ll be completely amazed. May God bless and bring you peace. Manya

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The First Day of Advent!

The first day of Advent!  Do you have an Advent Wreath prepared and in a place of honor?  I don’t yet…but hope to correct that by this evening. Today the new liturgical year begins AND we start looking forward to the birth of Jesus Christ…Emmanuel. An Advent wreath helps us to keep in mind that Christmas is coming.  Traditionally, it is made up of 4 candles: 3 purple and 1 rose (or pink). Advent, like Lent, is a time of penance (I didn’t realize this until recently).  That’s why 3 of the candles are purple.  The rose candle falls on the 3rd Sunday of Advent (Gaudete Sunday) and symbolizes a time of rejoicing, for Christ is almost here.  A good explanation of the Advent Wreath can be found here. This time of year can be particularly painful for those going through separation and divorce…and for those who are beyond divorce but still hurting. Prayer, distraction and, finally. accepting & offering up to God the cross you’re bearing right now, all work wonders in getting you through this time. Also, focusing on others can help…for example, volunteering at a homeless shelter… I wish you all a blessed Christmas season as we…

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Patron Saint of Marriage

One of the search terms that recently brought a visitor to this site was , “patron saint of marriage.”  That got me to wondering who that might be…the patron saint, that is…not the visitor. 🙂 My guess (and nomination) would be St. Joseph.  After coming up with this thought, I did a quick google search to see what the church says about it.  Just skimming down the first page of search results, this is what I found: St. John Francis Regis (The View from Over Here) St. Edward the Confessor- patron saint of difficult marriages (The Catholic Company) St. Valentine (why didn’t I think of that?…I still vote for St. Joseph, though) New Martyr Argyre of Proussa (Mystagogy) That’s all the first page of google results revealed.  I found another interesting patron saint, though, that I had to share with you. St Isidore of Seville, Patron Saint of the Internet (!) – (Ultimate Top Ten Lists) Who would your vote be for?? Manya

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